Predictable behavior is a boon in the types of relationships I want to cultivate. I aspire to act predictably because:
It eases the mental burden on those around me
Friends, children, family, co-workers, peers, etc, don’t have to wonder how I’ll react or how I’ll behave. They can trust in a consistent version of who I am.
It’s corelated with reliability
It implies, at least for me, good communication
I’ve communicated what I think, feel, and what my intentions are and predictability is the following-up on those promises.
- Only say things you’re comfortable standing behind; don’t bluff
- Don’t make unnecessary commitments
- Use fewer, more general, rules
- Follow through on what you said